My game is usually tight before this question.

Before this, the lady is smiling uncontrollably and blushing all over the place. I sense the conversation is heading to the question and I have a joke or two to distract her.

Most ladies tend to be determined, this far her heart is half way won, “the joke about Prison was funny.”

Awkward silence, then, “What do you do for a living?”

It all goes south from there!!

Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer are one word responses that would seal the deal.

You can say something that her small brain cannot understand, Entomologist! That would also seal the deal. Most ladies won’t care if you take pictures of butterflies for a living; they just want a word that summarizes what their boyfriend does!!

But I have to explain. There is no one word response that captures what I do for a living. When you have to explain, a lot of points get deducted.

“Am I seeing you again?”

“I’ll call you.”

That’s what they always tell me in job interviews I fail.

What do I do for a living? I CHANGE LIVES.

I find something dead, and I give it life. I find something hopeless and I inject some hope. I find people going nowhere and I point them somewhere. That’s what I do for a living.

I find communities where the school dropout rate is 80%, I work until the dropout rate is down to 0%.

I find communities where teenage pregnancies, crime rates are high; I work until they are low.

I find communities in darkness and I show them the light. 

That’s what I do for a living.

But very few ladies would understand that and so I tell them I just left Prison and I’m looking for work.

What do you do for a living? Will that be relevant in the next life?

Editor : Aaron Kihiu

Think of the significant moments in your life, such moments don’t happen every day, do they?

What if true Love happens once?

What if it is supposed to happen with that special someone?

What if love is fashioned after a good, better, best format?

There is that person that would be good for you, there’s another that would be better, but there’s one that would be best for you.

I wonder how you fair on the scale.

The thought that true love happens once is scary but I believe in the ONE.

If you find the ONE, you will be happy.

If you don’t find them then you will have to settle for good or better.

There is a Jewish belief that before a child is born, heaven picks a husband or wife for them!

I wish I knew who kept the files.

There’s a wedding song I listen to and a line in the song says; “When God made you, He must have been thinking about me.”

That’s some confidence there, and I guess I’m not alone in my belief.

There is someone that is good for me, there’s someone that is better in comparison, but there is one that’s best for me.

I need to find this person! But what if they are taken? I guess I have to settle for better if good is also taken.

This would describe a good majority of modern relationships.

There are people who cannot adequately describe their love life, when you ask them about it, they say things like;

“We are just hanging in there.”

“We are trying.”

“It’s not that bad and it’s not that good.”

No one gets in a relationship to just hang in there or just try.

So what goes wrong?

When you don’t invest in a business, you really don’t care if the business fails or succeeds. The lack of investment can’t get hold of your emotions.

It is the same thing with relationships.

Getting into relationships is like a car going down a hill, it has momentum from gravity and this is what a relationship looks like especially in the honey moon phase.

Couples don’t have to do much because they are riding on the excitement of meeting each other.

It gets to that place where you have to go uphill. That requires effort. It is during that time you realize your partner is not really a liability, but they are not an asset either.

When you don’t invest in your relationship, you will end up with a person you don’t mind losing but you also don’t mind keeping.

When you are too careful in a relationship, you end up with an asset that is also a liability.

When you hold back in a relationship, you end up with a person that is not that good and not that bad.

Love is ALL or NOTHING.

The fruits of love are enjoyed by those who go ALL IN.