Finding Love Past 30: Part One.

The Journey.


My mum got married when she was 21, and by 30, she had given birth to the two of us.

Today, at 30, a good number of women are finishing up with their studies, learning the ropes in a dream job or about to start a business.


Emotionally, a single woman at 30 is likely to be recovering from a failed marriage or a failed relationship that caused a lot of emotional damage.

Even without statistics, it’s easy to tell that 30 for most Kenyan women is a waiting room.

When you hit 30, you realize you have lived half your life and this perhaps is the reason most women get wiser at 30.

For whatever reason, a woman may find herself single at 30 and at this stage, finding love is not as easy as it was when you were 18.

There is a lot at stake, so much to consider, and many women wonder how to go about it.

Before we look at tips to help you navigate the love maze at 30, there are a few things you must appreciate about the journey so far.


You Are Wiser.

You will be amazed at how many lessons you have learnt along the way.

There are mistakes you made you would not repeat.



There are some people you dated that you can’t even talk to right now.

There are things about yourself you didn’t know but now you know.

Being wiser will help you make a good decision.


You Are More Experienced.

Think of the lies you never saw through in your younger days.

Think of all the red flags you missed.

Think of all the times you should have walked away but you did not.

Well, now you are experienced.


You can see a lie even before it is told.

You can see a time waster even before he takes up a minute of your time.

You can know a cheater just by looking at their shadow.

This experience will guide you to a good decision.


Man-A-Plenty.


There are many men past 30 that are single and you only need one, so it’s accurate to say you are spoilt for choice.

30 has the same effect on men as it has on women.

Men at 30 tend to be focused and a bit more mature.

At 30, most men are shedding youthful immaturity and putting on maturity that blossom in old age.


A Lot Is At Stake.

At 30, a lot is at stake.
Children from previous relationships might be involved and this being the case, you have to think about what’s good for all involved.

You will be surprised how sharp our minds can be when a lot is at stake.


Good Coaches Make Changes At Half-Time.

Think of a Coach watching his team play, as he watches the game, he take mental notes of what is working and the areas that need change.

At half time, he makes the changes that help the team win the game.

30 is half your life so 30 serves as your half-time.

Half of your life is behind you and the other half is ahead.

It’s time to think about what is working and what is not; it’s time to make changes that will make the remaining half of your life better.

Plainly stated, 30 is the best time to prepare for the future.

Appreciating these factors helps us approach Love with the realization that we not desperate and that we are not late.

That being said, there are a few pitfalls we ought to avoid.